This week’s guest blogger is Dr Mark Stibbe author of Home At Last
As readers of my books will know, in 2012 I had a moral fall which caused a lot of pain to a lot of people, especially those I love. In 2013 I came to my senses and owned what I had done and, like King David, discovered that godly sorrow brings restoration. Shortly after, I began to engage in a two-year process of counselling. About three months in, the Father began to open up a locked trunk in my heart – a trunk full of hurts of abandonment and abuse going back to my ten years at boarding school. Once opened, I began to see how the agony of being left at prep school on my eighth birthday, along with the abuse that followed, had caused me to board up my heart – so much so that I was later unable to show my emotions properly to those I love, nor enjoy joyful intimacy and express healthy empathy.
As I began to unravel all of this with my counsellor, and those to whom I am accountable, the Father gave me supernatural keys to unlock my chains. And not just my chains but other peoples’ too. My latest book, Home at Last, is my attempt not only to tell my story but to offer healing to the thousands who, like me, became disengaged and disintegrated at boarding school, often to the detriment of their marriages and families as adults.
I wrote Home at Last for two reasons: Firstly, because there is a growing awareness in popular culture of the emotional damage done at boarding school. Secondly, because there is no other book or ministry that is specifically dedicated to bringing heaven’s help to those suffering the agony of long-lasting boarding school pain.
My prayer is that it will bring freedom to thousands of people living with a long-term legacy of pain and that it will be used to bring emotional health to those wounded by their boarding school experience.